Rooted in God's Love
I’ve had a lot of young women approach me with questions about how to deal with the most common issues: anger & marriage. Unfortenately there isn’t a manual that teaches us how to have a great marriage but there is God’s Holy Bible that has life full of wisdom. There are many great Christian books that gives us tools how to have a healthy marriage. A lot of Deaf people struggle with reading so their accessibility to healthy tools are robbed. This is why I share my testimony through my ministry to help other Deaf people gain God’s tool to live the purpose driven life.
I’ve overcame a lot of trails and errors. I come from a family who are all divorced & most of them have deep rage towards the ones that hurt them. Forgiveness is almost impossible in my family and I thank God that my grandmother told me about Jesus. Because of Jesus, I was able to find freedom & clear up the lies that was taught in my life.
It is really important to understand the difference between what you were taught growing up & knowing God’s words. What you don’t know, can really rob you years of joy and freedom.
If I knew what I knew now, I can promise you I would have made different decisions & would have taken my time before I decided to marry my husband. From our early years of our marriage, I had a lot of unhealed issues from my childhood and it was hard to detect the difference from what was real and what were lies. It brought on a lot of hurt & anger towards my husband because he was not healed from his own issues too. We were dealing with our individual issues, on top our marriage issues & we our relationship with Christ wasn’t as strong. We didn’t put God first in our lives and a lot of painful times occured in our life that led us to Divorce. Later as years gone by, we learned to put God first & focused on our issues before we move towards the possibilitiy of re- marriage. It made a huge difference because when we focus on God, His unconditional love santicfied us and we were able to look through the eyes of God towards one another. Less on us, more on God and matured us in so many ways.
I’ve encouraged a lot of women to take their time before they decide to marry someone because when you are healed from your own issues, you won’t struggle as much when you are learning to love and serve your partner with life long of challenges ahead of you. You will be able to handle new issues and after strengthening your relationship with Christ will save you so many years of hurt.
That is why God encouraged couples to take pre martial counseling sessions with your pastor before taking the step forward to get married. There is no such thing as perfect marriage & it’s extremely important to understand the commitment that comes with marriage. When my husband & I took pre martial session, he didn’t want to loose control of me and didn’t want the pastor to know the real issues we had done towards each other. In result, our early years of marriage was so toxic, so unhealthy, and I lived in fear for years. It took over 10 years to heal from those damages. If it wasn’t for Christ, I would not be where I am today.
It is so important to follow God’s instructions because He wants to protect you from satan’s foothold in your life and destroy your marriage. It’s so important to address your anger issues first and learn how to deal with it in God’s way. I’ve ministered lot of Deaf people who struggle with expressing anger in healthy ways & desperate in finding freedom. Jesus is the answer. When we are rooted in His words, we will think, act & do what Christ want us to do. He prunes us from what we were taught growing up into HIs divine kingdom.
Here are some scriptures to mediate & do your homework to write what these scriptures says:
John 13:34-35 So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. 35 Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.
James 1:12 God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
If you are going through trails & temptation & making decisions to obey God’s teaching, you will reap so many blessings. Those trails are for your own good and shape you to be more like Him. Then you can share with your brothers & sisters in Christ to encourage them for they are going through the same trails as you are. This is why I share mine & there are so many topics I can go on about but this is what the spirit laid on my heart to share with you.
It only takes 15 minute a day to spend time with the Lord to experience the purpose driven life. I encourage you to start with Five minutes of reading the Word everyday, 5 minutes of worship & 5 minutes to pray over your needs and you will start seeing major transformation in your life. Stay rooted in Him and you will be set free from satan’s trap.